We got notice yesterday that we are done with training, all our references are in & we have been moved to homestudy. We may have a 2-3 week wait before we get contacted by our homestudy worker because they have a backlog. Our last homestudy took 2 visits, the first visit was about 3 hours, the second was 5-6 if I remember correctly. I was much more nervous for our last one than I am this time around. We are now well aware of what the worker is looking for. Our last worker told us, super clean houses aren't required (thank goodness for that!). I think the number one thing they want to see is that you are being honest & realistic. We didn't sugar coat anything and answered everything with honesty. She asked us questions like, what do we fight about most often, back then it was the division of household chores. She asked us about our families, our marriage, our jobs & just our relationship. Please do not think they are wanting you to say "oh, we never fight, we just negotiate!", they want you to say the truth & know how you handle pressure & disagreements. If this is your first adoption, or like us your first child, you will find all types of NEW things to fight about. Our last homestudy didn't go perfectly smooth. On our first visit our worker stepped in dog poop in our back yard (twice). Then while we were touring the house my dog spilled her coffee on her laptop & mouse. I was VERY embarrassed but she was a good sport! I will post an update as soon as we schedule our first visit!
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